Baby Shower Guide
Planning The Shower
There’s an ongoing debate – that can actually become quite emotional and vocal – that
tried to determine whether or not a relative should throw the baby shower. Traditionally,
the view has been that a relative should not throw a baby shower, because it can appear
that the relative is requesting gifts. Yet traditions change, and there are times when a
sibling, or a cousin, or an aunt might be the ideal and somewhat convenient choice.
So what should you do? To answer this, we can respond with the best, and sometimes
most unsatisfying answer of them all: it depends.
Sorry, but it really does depend. If you hail from a rather traditional or conventional
background, it may be wise to see that a non-relative is in charge of the baby shower. In
addition, even if you, personally, are comfortable with a relative throwing the baby
shower, some of your guests – who may be less comfortable with it than you – may
object (or just whisper about it behind your back).
Use your judgment here. Perhaps the most practical advice is this: if you can
conveniently and pleasantly not have a relative run things, then that will likely be the best
route to go. However, if that’s just not possible, plausible, or preferred, then don’t feel
like you’re someone from outer space because you’re related to the mother-to-be. More
and more people are breaking with tradition; especially since they feel that the
perception of a relative “asking for gifts” arguably doesn’t exist anymore.